Understanding PDA – A New Way to Support Your Child

Have you heard about PDA?

PDA stands for Pathological Demand Avoidance or it is now more commonly known as a Pervasive Drive for Autonomy (PDA), this describes a strong, ongoing need to feel in control of one's actions and choices, often observed in children who feel safest when they are directing the pace, structure, or nature of their interactions. This is a profile seen in some autistic individuals. Children with a PDA profile can experience extreme anxiety in response to everyday demands, which can affect how they engage at home, in school, and in their community.

At SMART Spot, we encourage a shift away from compliance and toward collaborative, trust-based approaches especially when working with PDA.

One gentle, neuro-affirming strategy: Swap direct instructions for more curious, playful language.

Instead of saying, “Put your shoes on,” Try: “I wonder if your shoes are feeling ready to go on?” or “Shall we see if your shoes want to come along today?”

This shift can reduce pressure and make it easier for the child to engage, without triggering a stress response.

🔗 If you’re keen to learn more, the PDA Society UK offers excellent resources: Visit PDA Society UK

The Yellow Ladybugs is also another excellent resource. https://www.facebook.com/yellowladybugs/posts/people-with-pda-avoid-or-refuse-every-day-demands-and-are-obsessive-in-their-dri/939684199544038/